TRUST!!

I trust him I thought. I smiled. I looked at my reflection in the glass. I looked beautiful to my eyes may be because it was his vision that became my perspective. Something strange eventuated, The seeds of conversation i planted never turned into a plant but it suddenly pushed up. A little new plant. I never thought of knowing why today and not any other day before. I was very happy that the plant of relationship finally showed up. I was overwhelmed. I danced all day and sang all night. I imagined how big the plant would grow. I wanted tall and strong. I wanted shade and protection. Every time we spoke to each other the plant looked healthy. Every time we met my plant grew A little. 

I was emotionally glued to the person and one day a little blossom appeared on the plant. I was delighted. I searched the whole world for its nourishment but my stubborn plant only fed on us. We sang and danced together for the plant. It illuminated. My blossom glittered. We both were very proud about the plant of our relationship. We never let anyone touch it. It was precious. It belonged to us and only us. We fought with bugs that interrupted and insects that resided on it. We battled for it.

 

Somethings changed between us. I rushed to my plant to check whether it was fine. I was not. It was diseased. Its leaves were falling. We both tried to get rid of the disease. My plant was not ready to recover. Sigh. I poured some tears expecting it would be act like a savior to my plant. nothing happened. I poured a little more expecting a change. I drenched it further. My blossom lost all its glitter. I panicked. I never understood what to do to save it. I sat beside it and told every beautiful incident. It never reacted the way it used to. 

I was blamed by the person. He thought it was my fault that the plant is dying. The plant diseased further. I blamed him for the plant. The plant was diseased to the roots. We both never spoke to each other again. I sat beside my plant looking at it helplessly. I started hearing weird things from people. They said this person defamed me. They said he depreciated me in front of the world. I din't want to believe it but I had to listen to the world because he wasn't my world anymore. My plant ablazed. I shrieked in pain. I poured tears to reduce the flames but flames were all over the plant and my tears acted as fuel. 
Little did I know I should have trusted the person. I should have smiled to save my plant of relationship. 

Y NOT SHIVA?

Hinduism was practiced by my family since forever. As a child I was introduced to many gods. Some were beings with human body and animal heads while some other had several deformities like 4 heads and 16 hands. God was presented as the super power who always had one eye upon us and would eventually punish us for our wrong deeds. I was a child whose curiosity doubled up when it came to magic. All the wars and the weapons, Boons and Meditation( Tapasya), Deeds and Karma intrigued me to know entirety of god.
I was never sure whether i believed god or not, I still am not. I read almost everything i can just to analyze why the supreme power executed in a particular way when a situation raised. I considered his Brain to be similar to mine and wanted to examine his thoughts (I think decoding would be a better term!)
 In this post I want to compare and contrast between Lord Ram and Lord shiva.

Introduction:

Lord Shiva is one among the three gods who were created by Goddess Shakthi. Goddess Shakthi created Lord Brahma, to create the world and see to it that it is populated, Lord Vishnu, to show a righteous path to every being that is being created and Lord Shiva, to maintain the balance by dissolving the creation into him after a particular period of time( That is why he is referred to as Hara, which means extract or simply take away). It is told in Purana's that Lord Shiva will destroy the universe( apart from Kashi) some day when there is no equilibrium between the good and bad, thus the name Rudra Latched on to him. Goddess Shakthi or the mother universe got married to Shiva and her two other forms Saraswati and Lakshmi got married to Brahma and Vishnu respectively.
Lord Ram was supposed to be born several hundred Years later to a king named Dasaratha. There was a man named Ravan, who was the greatest devotee of lord Shiva. He prayed for several years for nothing but love of lord Shiva. Shiva could never say no to his devotees. Shiva was innocent and easy to please( hence the name Bholenath) Ravan became stronger and stronger each day. There came a time where Ravan was supposed to die and no one could kill him because of his good deeds. Ravan was made to commit sin's by other gods and Lord ram was born as a human to kill a danav (ravan)

As a Husband:
Shiva was different. Shivam means nothing but simplicity. Shiva never bothered much about his looks. He careless left his hair to grow. He wore snakes as ornament around his neck . He sat on tiger skin on a hard stone. He is supposed to live on alms. He smears his body with ashes(bhasma) and is believed to reside in burial grounds. He never asked his wife to be the same. She was treated like a princess. She was allowed to do and be like she wished. Her ideas were given equal importance to his. There are several situations which explained that respect and eternal love towards his wife. Godess shakthi was born to Daksha, A king who was a son of Brahma himself. She wished to get married to shiva. She prayed and mediated for years untill her wish was fulfilled. Daksha disliked shiva, so he decided to insult him by performing a yagnya and not inviting his son-in law and daughter. Sati badly wanted to visit her parents. Shiva explained her that she should not visit any one's place without an invitation. Sati was not convinced(it was her parents home afterall, she dint require any invitation) Shiva did not compel her. He never emotionally blackmailed her. He let her go because he couldn't say no. Sati was insulted by her father in a broad court infront of every god. She couldnt live anylonger bearing that insult so she comitted suicide. Shiva's anger was at greatest extent. He could not think of a life without his wife. He took the corpse of his wife on his shoulders and started to perform his special way of dance expressing anger(Rudra Thandavam). He wouldnt stop and the world started to shudder. Lord vishnu released his sudarshana chakra to dispose the corpse of sati hoping that would calm shiva. Shiva went back to meditation untill sati was reborn as parvati and was remarried to shiva.
At the wedding, with Parvati, Parvati's Mother saw shiva in his appearance and was in deep distress that her princess would be married to a person who looked no less than a ghost. Parvati requested shiva to find a solution and just for her he changed himself into a handsome prince at his wedding. He never asked her to adjust. In another instance, Gods and the demons formed a pact and started churning the ocean of milk(ksheera sagara madhanam) for Amrith( a nectar which gave imortality wen consumed) . Several things came out of the ocean which were rightfully distributed. Suddenly An immense dangerous poison emerged from the ocean. Both the gods and demons were petrified. Shiva stepped forward and looked at his wife. Parvati understood what he wanted to do. He wanted to drink it and save the world. She knew there would be no world without him. She signalled him to proceed. Even though it was his decision he waned her opinion before moving further. Parvati walked up to him and tangled his neck and made sure the poison stayed locked in his throat forever, leaving him a blue throat ( thus the name garala kanta or Neelkant). There was another instance where Goddess Ganga was called on to the earth by Bhagirath. Earth could not handle the force of ganga, so the world prayed for a solution so Shiva accepted that Ganga would stay on his head locked by his hair and only a tolerable flow would be allowed on earth.(thus the name Gangadhara) Now how would people depict the relationship between Ganga and Shiva? Parvati instantly said Ganga would also be refereed as his wife along with her. It was neither lust nor love, It was responsibility Shiva had towards Ganga and Parvati understood it.

Ram was treated like a prince and was familiar with all kshatria dharma ( a must followed rule book for every king). He is known for following dharma( though he killed Vali from behind) Ram happily agreed to stay in forests for 14 years because his father promised his step mom a boon. He never asked Sita to accompany and asked her to stay safe at the palace. Sita would never bear to stay away from her husband. she simply followed him sacrificing every royal benefit. She lived in dense forests and slept on ground. One day she was kidnapped by Ravan. She was kept hostage. Ravan tried everything to convince her. she stayed calm and pure. She told whoever it is apart from her husband they are equal to a twig and nothing more. Ram fought a fierce battle with Ravan and won. Sita was happy to finally re unite with her husband. Ram stopped her before accepting. she was told to prove her piety before accepting. Sita was shocked, after bearing all that torture she found out that trust was lacking in the relationship. she did not despise Ram she agreed to go through Agni pareeksha. Ram finally believed when God of fire himself testified her purity. They returned back to their country Ram was the new king and his wife was the queen. One fine day when Sita was expecting a baby, Ram banishes Sita because he notices that one of the washer man says Sita couldn't have maintained her character and she is unfit to be the queen. Sita was left in a forest. She gave birth to two baby boys Luv and Kush. One fine day Ram meets his children and realizes his mistake. Sita refuses to return back and goes back to Bhumi devi (her mother). Ram gives his kingdom to his son's and commits suicide by drowning into River Sarayu.

Now I still am confused as why are we told to perform puja's to get a husband like Ram? A man who left for forests without thinking about the welfare of his people and who doubted his wife and did not accept her untill the agni pareeksha, A man who abandoned his wife and his children because society had some doubts?
Why not a man who thought of his wife as an equal? why not a man who could not be seperable from his wife? why not a man who never asked her the necessity to create a son without consulting him? why not a man who went against every rule of universe to give her son's life back to see her happy? Why not Shiva?

P.S: All views expressed are personal and are not meant to hurt any body's feelings.  

SMILE :)

Smile is a curve that sets everything straight. Smile is that beautiful expression created by the almight where you can express several things with the slightest movement of your lips. Some smiles represent a YES and some a No. There is love, sympathy, sarcasm and even hatred in smile. 

A boy who is completely in love tries to show his love in several different ways but the girl may or may not reciprocate the same way but when she is turns around and SMILES that feeling may not be a yes but that smile is more than enough for the boy to feel his efforts have been realized.

A wife, who don't expect anything from her husband who left for his work, When received a text from him saying 'I love you.' She simply SMILES. A smile which says her love is not forgotten even today.

You purposely don't wish your best friend and visit her place in the evening to give her a surprise she looks up to you and gives you a huge SMILE. You both know your bond just got a little stronger.

When you are facing serious financial crisis and you are out with your friends and every one asks you for a treat you make stupid excuses. One of your friend pulls your wallet and opens up to find good amount of money. You instantly know your brother filled your empty wallet. You smile happily because you got not just some money but lots of love and care.

You smile when you remember him. You smile when he kiss you through the phone. You smile for everything he says to impress you.
You smile for all those things that make you happy. Smile is the best way to express your happiness. 

Smile is an ornament which lights up your life every moment.